How disturbing can the feeling of one person having nothing be to the peace amongst friends, spouses, siblings and family members? I suppose this does not sound as bad as it can become once it happens around you or in your household
Very often we aspire to become and have different things and yet life has a way of throwing the unexpected curve ball at you which will either see you make or break it further.
It is my view that the ability to accept the things we cannot change and focus on what lies ahead that will see any of us through these times. I am however puzzled at how these are gripped where people would rather go into a sulking mode and irritate the rest of us and start creating barriers that makes them unreachable to the rest of the ‘outside world’ as they may deem it. Yet there is an expectation for others to continue to show interest or else your distance is interpreted as being only there when times are good.
These guys often contradict their feelings so much about others that they completely miss the point. You don’t want people asking you questions or offer your help as you are not hollow and if they keep their distance they are still bad people. Nothing happens to you because you are being punished, but it’s what you make out of the situation that can restore your strength and ability to see it through and find ways to recover.
We instead continue to bury ourselves in a dark hole that’s big enough for us and shut the rest of the world out – just because. I cannot for one stress enough what it means to be down and out and even people who sometimes look like as if they are on top of their game are actually at times down and out but they just keep going.
The circumstances that surround the sheepish feeling may differ from person to person and in some cases it may take others longer to recover but the one thing all those who eventually recover will have in common will be the willingness to do so.
No matter how bad it seems or sounds, I have personally been in situations that seemed beyond my comprehension of how I will possible recover from them. In fact the more they happen the better one’s ability become to deal with them. These are the times, one’s strength surfaces more and more and you will hardly recognise the strong person you have in you.
But if we always choose to be gullible about your situations and blame anyone that you come across and misinterpret every given situation in a negative manner then how do you expect others to accept you and your circumstance. People move on and away as soon as you move on and away, but if you will be licking your wounds everyday for the rest of your life then we will circling around you to watch you sink deeper into whatever you think is wrong with you.
Sometimes it sounds easier than what it really is which is true, as you will also need the courage to start the thought of wanting to do something which will drive the will power eventually. So it starts small and step by step you go on.
Feeling sorry for yourself and blaming people for an error in judgement by you if that’s the case then itS not conducive for you or for them. You make it impossible and unbearable for people to be around you as they need to tip toe with words because they don’t want to ‘strike’ you or rub you in the wrong way. Come on, life happens to the best of us. Sometimes you will be at a crucial stage of your life, career, an idea then it gets snatched away in an eye wink. Who’s’ fault is it? It actually does not matter, get up and try again, change course or strategy if you have to but don’t give in to the pressures of failure.
So, the will power is one thing all of us have but many of us never attempted to use it and some of us have chosen not to.
All the best with all your attempts as I believe at least one will be fruitful but yet again patience is virtue as you may well know and yet time waits for no man.
Cheers
Paul M
