What do you think?

Does money bring happiness?

The answer is so clear to me like the difference between night and day. I have started to question many of the proverbs like, money is root of all evil  or money isn’t everything. I wonder who said these?

It seems like a rummer that someone starts and at the end the message we get has been totally changed.

Why am I saying that? The statement that money isn’t everything is totally true and clear. Money is money and nothing else, like money is not a book or neither a book is money. But you can buy a book and sell a book for money.

It is the value of money that should be talked about, not the physical money itself. So when someone says: “money doesn’t buy happiness” we can say:

 “Money can’t buy happiness, but neither can poverty.” ~Leo Rosten

To prove that money bring happiness, think about these four points.

Point one: Financially, there are 3 groups of people in the world:

1. People who are broke all the time.

2. People who break even  (live paycheck to paycheck)

3. People who have surplus of money.

I promise you that group one and two always try to get to the higher group and group 3 doesn’t want to lose it’s position. Do you agree?

It is very logical, isn’t it?

I know I can concluded that people in group 3 are financially happy to be where they are, but the other two groups are trying to be happier by moving up to another group. It is logical and natural part of life that you would want to move up to higher levels financially from where you are. No one likes or would want to move downwards financially. Ask yourself, which group has less financial stress?

According to a study of 450,000 Americans and how they evaluate their happiness, a salary of $75,000 a year is the magic number after which people’s day-to-day happiness no longer improves. This study was done by psychologist Daniel Kahneman and economist Angus Deaton. From The Wall Street Journal: “It turns out there is a specific dollar number, or income plateau, after which more money has no measurable effect on day-to-day contentment. After that, it is just more stuff, with no gain in happiness. That doesn’t mean wealthy and ultra wealthy are equally happy. More money does boost people’s life as all the way up the income ladder. People who earned $160,000 a year, for instance, reported more overall satisfaction than people earning $120,000, and so on.”

So, according to Wall Street numbers, you won’t be any happier on a day-to-day basis if you’re making $75,000 or $750,000—though you’ll likely feel like you’ve got a better life overall.  See what Arnold said long time ago:

What is another name for satisfaction:

Fulfillment of one’s wishes, expectations, or needs, or the pleasure derived from this.

Is it possible for any one not to be happy by fulfillment of wishes. I do not know your answer, but I will take more money to do what I desire and that would make me happy. Look like someone is playing with words, not me I am very honest and I am sure the difference between $75k and $750k is a lot and most people would be happier with $750k.

Don’t know what the true intension of this reacher was, but I don’t agree with it at all and I think it is a sick idea to force a message to people that is not logical and doesn’t make sense. My point is there are so many thing that is myth (another word lies) and we need to find out the truth and wonder who says what?

 Point two: Smallest amount of change can make a difference in people’s life.

Smallest amount of change can make people extremely happy as if they received a million dollars. I used to live in Downtown Los Angles and walk to my work.  You may have heard, downtown Los Angeles is one of the busiest business centers, crowded and traffic is crazy. Each street is some kind of a district. For example you have the garment district, diamond district, flower district, fruit district and the famous Ally which you can buy just about anything in there.

So everyone working to make some money to provide for their family. On my way to work, I would come across people parking in meter parking area but didn’t have coins or small change to put in the parking meter.

I know fine was $25 dollars and no one in the right mind would want to risk not putting 4 quarters and later on pay the $25 fine. I would always carry quarters with me and give it to people that didn’t have change. This is the time that you could see how the smallest amount of change made people so happy specially with not expecting anything in return.

Now, you tell me if one dollar can make someone so happy or not.

Let me give you another example. Have you ever found a dollar in the street? How did it make you feel? It makes me very happy to find a dollar. My point is smallest amount of money can make you happy.

Point three: Lack of money

Below is a list I put together, it shows how lack of money could effect a person. Surly, all of us would want to have enough money not to worry about bills, be able to eat well, spend more time with our family or have money to travel and have fun. I consider lack of money problem and sadness and having enough money a must to live with freedom and a good indicator of happiness.

Money Lack of money
– financial freedom – not much of freedom
– better schooling – no school or not a quality school
– less family problems due to finance – lots of family problems
– no worries about bills – lot of worries
– no worries about mortgage or rent – lot of worries
– cars are great – maintaining and paying for gas are problems
– eating well – eating cheap and unhealthy
– no worries about old age retirement – big issue for golden years
-vacation, travel and fun – hardly go anywhere
-able to help others – can’t help even though wants to
– being comfortable – not so comfortable

The table above show lack of money and financial freedom. You can decide for yourself which group you want to be in. My answer is clear, I’d like to have money because it gives me financial freedom. Financial freedom gives me the time freedom to do what I want to do on my own terms.

Being in control of your finance is a great stress reliever.

 

There are other myths about money that I don’t agree with, you can read about them here. Money is root of all evil or is it?

Point 4: Can you be happy without money or live modestly?

My answer is yes, because many famous people in the world have lived a simple life and were very happy and there are a lot of people who live in poverty and they are happy, too.

Here are a few examples about very famous people who lived a simple life and were very happy.

Jean-Paul Sartre was a French philosopher, playwright, novelist, political activist, biographer, and literary critic. Born: June 21, 1905,  Paris Francedied: April 15, 1980,  Paris France. From what I read, all his life he had only a cane, pair of glasses to read and a few clothes. He never bought a mansion or any property which he could have bought. He won the Noble Prize and Refused it.

 

Here is another example:

Diogenes of Sinope: Greek philosopher who lived in a barrel and did not even own a cup to drink water or had any dishes to eat his food in.

According to legend, Alexander the Great came to visit the Greek philosopher Diogenes of Sinope. Alexander wanted to fulfill a wish for Diogenes and asked him what he desired. According to the version recounted by Diogenes Laërtius, Diogenes replied “Stand out of my light.”

Diogenes of Sinope believed being happy comes from having less and thinking less about things.

Another example is Mahatma Gandhi

Mohandas Gandhi was the preeminent leader of Indian independence movement in British-ruled India. Born: October 2, 1869, Assassinated: January 30, 1948. He lived a very simple life and wore a white sheet.

There were and are many people who had it all, but lived very happy without money.

In my opinion these people had access to a lot of money if they wanted to, but they chose to be a role model and said that life is not all about money and happiness comes from within. I agree that happiness can be choice and a mindset, but I am not sure if they didn’t have any access to any money or there were in poverty they would have said that happiness is within since a hungry stomach would not be happy until it is feed.

I think when you have enough money to be comfortable and your primary needs are met like food, shelter and clothes then some people can have a mindset that they don’t have to have much to be happy, but still for most of the people with below average income or below poverty level, money easily could bring a lot of happiness. I am talking about majority of the people in the world not a few ultra rich that say more than what they have would not make them happy.

Traditionally, a nation’s economic health is measured by its wealth. But increasingly, some leaders and policymakers are turning their focus to a more human notion of well-being: happiness.

That’s the motivation behind the World Happiness Report, an analysis published by the Sustainable Development Solutions Network, a UN organization that aims to fight poverty by stoking sustainable development. The annual rankings, first published in 2012, aim to quantify happiness using Gallup World Poll data that asked people to evaluate the quality of their own lives on a scale of zero to 10. Here, based on that metric, are this year’s 25 happiest countries:

Most of the happiest countries you see above are rich countries with higher income average except Costa Rica (#12), Mexico (#14), and Brazil (#16), Venezuela (#23), and Panama (#25).

I have visited Mexico, Panama and I have been living with my wife in Costa Rica. My observation is that a lot of people in these three countries live in poverty and they make the best out of what they have. I am sure if you ask any of these poor people that if having more money will make them happier or not, you’ll find the answer to be, YES.

In Costa Rica minimum wage is about $3 an hour, however cost of food, gasoline, electricity, water are as high as USA and in some cases food items are even higher than USA. People may seem happy but they live on rice and beans.

I have a friend that anytime they invite me to their house, I see that their refrigerator is empty. Many people raise chicken so that once in a while they can have better food.

Some people plant corn and beans in their backyards because it is cheaper and go hunting and fishing (not for fun but because it is all they can afford). Some people in Costa Rica work 12 hours a day, six or even seven days a week with no vacation.

Now, you tell me would money bring these people more happiness or not. My answer is 100% yes.

Conclusion: Does money bring happiness or does it?

It depends who you are asking from. Arnold had 48 million and extra 2 million didn’t make him happier even-though it made him more comfortable and financially secure.

If you ask the most famous people who wanted to make a point that money is not everything (even-though they had access to as much as they wanted to and knew they could get to their money at any given moment) they would say no.

If you ask majority of people in the world who live in poverty and don’t have food, clothes, shelter and opportunity in life, majority would say $1.25 could feed a family of four for a day and money for sure can make four people happy for a day.

I value your opinion so please tell me what you think?

If you want new furniture, you may be cringing at the prices on some of your favourite choices. In current times, many families who may have been able to afford to go out and get the furniture set they wanted just two years ago simply can not afford to do it now. If you want something new, but you have to watch how much you spend, there are some great ways you can get a furniture discount on just about anything for your home. If you have some time, and are willing to be flexible, you can save money on some great pieces for your furniture needs.

One thing you should always do is to shop around, but it is even more important when you want to get a furniture discount. Sales are down in almost all areas of retail, and stores know they may have to cut some prices to get you to buy. Unless you live in a very rural area, you probably have a few different stores from which you can choose. Go to all of them, see what you like, and make it clear that you are shopping around and that you are going to go with the store that is willing to give you the best deal. Banchory furniture store owner, Joseph says, “with a great sale on in our store, there’s no price we can’t beat!”

You may or may not get some offers this way. Make the most of your trips by seeing what you like and what prices are out there. You may not find the same set in another store, but you may find one with the same qualities that you like just as much. Take note of the price. You can ask each store if they are willing to give you a furniture discount based on what you found at the other. They may not, but you may get what you want. It never hurts to ask. Some stores know an outright ‘no’ may mean you walk out and never come back.

If you still are not sure if you are getting the furniture discount that is the best that you can do, take some time to look online. Some stores have furniture items on their web sites that are discounted and not available in their show rooms. It can be harder to buy a couch or living room chair this way, as you should always sit on something to make sure it feels good, but you can find some great deals this way. When calculating the furniture discount you may be getting, be sure to factor in shipping or delivery charges.

Don’t forget about the items that were never delivered or picked up. Most stores have orders that come in and the customer changes their mind, usually because they discover they can’t afford the set or they found something at a much better price somewhere else. At times, these may even be special ordered and can not be put out in the main showroom. Ask to see any of these items your local store may have. You can find great items and sets with a fabulous furniture discount to boot. You won’t have a huge selection, but you may find something you love this way and a price you can truly appreciate.

Home theatres continue to be a part of the entertainment units of many houses. A reason for this is that home theatres have different settings and tweaks that are credited with the difference people experience for their investment. To end up with the best home theatre system you should first ensure that you are aware of every aspect of its technology. Most people find themselves victims of ignorance and end up paying too much money for old technology and this is because they did not take time to check if their equipment had the latest technological features.

When looking for the best home theatre you should also understand the requirements, view a huge range of entertainment systems at www.boothscotland.scot. The form and dimensions of the place where the home theatre will be placed is another important consideration as placement of the system can affect delivery as well. To get the best place for the system you should measure the existing distance from your sitting area and the screen. The distance will play a big role in determining the screen.

The screen to be used with the home theatre is another consideration if the combination is to be effective for use in things like movies. The best TV to use with a home theatre system is a plasma TV or wide-screen LCD. There are people who prefer LCD TVs as they see them as being more durable. There are people who buy the sound system for the sole reason that they need good sound for the music and movies and if you are one of them then you should really look into the home theatre’s sound systems before actually buying it.

The sound system can be surround sound or loudspeakers and both are quite important as you will be assured of a movie-like experience every time you use it. The best home theatre system for the home should also be of the latest make and model. This will ensure that you have bought the system with the latest features. The cost of the home theatre system is another factor you should consider before buying a particular system because if it does not fit in your budget it will affect other needs.

When putting up the best home theatre system for your home it is very important that you follow the guidelines availed by the manufacturer. There are very many settings that you will have to deal with but to ensure that you have everything right it might be advisable to bring in an expert to help with the setting up. Finally, many people have fallen victims of con artists who sell fake products. To avoid being such a victim you should carry out a research to ensure that the company from which they are buying their home theatre system is a genuine company.

There are skilled electricians for every type of electrical work- Commercial, industrial, and residential based on the services provided by an electrician. For those in the industrial market, it is crucial to hire an electrical firm which is typically acquainted with performing industrial jobs. Here is some information on diverse industrial projects and services your local technician may provide:

One kind of industrial electrical service is transmission and distribution. Subversive power transmission is frequently seen in industrial applications. Overhead distribution is also generally seen among industrial sites. It is crucial to have this type of power supplied safely and beyond the reach of workers and employees of an industrial firm.

Several manufacturing plants need professional industrial electrical services for operating them. Majority of the electrical equipment in a manufacturing plant is built in a manner that the workers are protected and also to prevent equipment damage. Custom enclosures are an area of expertise of industrial electricians. Operating large manufacturing plants also needs some unique thinking due to the amount of power that is required to be availed at all times. Your electricians will work to create methods to make the site in the maximum possible energy efficient manner.

Solar power might be installed and used in many diverse types of industrial situations. One of the main purposes of solar power is to help the main power of a plant or building. Electricians can design a specific area of a warehouse or plants to entirely run on solar power, and install the panels that will be the primary source for this kind of energy.

Another useful method of generating industrial power is through utilization of wind. Huge windmills can be installed to generate naturally existing wind into energy and electricity. Other things which will be installed with this system are transmission lines, substations, and underground distribution. Systems such as these require instruments which need to be integrated for acquiring energy as an end result.

Industrial electrical services are complex and they may prove dangerous if not handled by a professional. Such type of repair or installation needs huge electrical systems which receive great degree of care during planning and installation phase. By utilizing progressive methods such as wind and solar power, and by experience of installing industrial electrical solutions, industrial electricians endeavor to create highly efficient and protected warehouses and other big plants.

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Its often thought that, in business at least, perfect opportunities are hard to come by, but that’s not entirely true. People only tend to miss out on great opportunities because they keep seeking the perfect one. As a matter of fact, any opportunity that presents itself to you could be the perfect opportunity if only you treat it as one. Any opportunity is as ordinary as the other, and it only becomes perfect once it yields success.

There is a certain skill, however, in knowing how to turn that great opportunity into a golden one. And that is where the question now lies – Can you turn an ordinary opportunity into the perfect one?

Skills can be acquired, sure, but talent cannot. And trying to better yourself to fit every job out there will ultimately prove futile. Noone can be tailor-made for every job.
Nevertheless, people in the same career must have a common trait that makes them good at what they do. Teachers must be more than just sympathetic, they must be compassionate. Winners are perceptive, with very keen senses and a heightened level of common sense. These and many other traits make them victorious.
Leaders need to have same traits as well, being able to listen, to follow, to deliberate, and to lead. Sum it all up, and you get a trait that’s rather difficult to acquire regardless of your career – Leadership.

Everyone knows what it means to become a leader, but to know what it takes to become one is a different story. Leadership is a huge burden to bear, and an almost impossible task. The cliche describes it well, Leaders are not made, they are born. One cannot just Google his way to leadership.

Leadership is not a status one earns over night as we have often witnessed at Appetite For Business. Years and years of hard work, and of both triumphs and failures create a good leader. But one does not necessarily have to be old to become a leader. Many a brilliant minds today reach their leadership statuses by learning empirically, and at the same time immersing in leadership development. Seminars that offer leadership development help aspiring leaders to get that sought-after top management spots.

People who value leadership understand the requirements and demands of becoming a leader, For these requirements to be met, an aspiring leader may choose for the rest of his life experiences to teach him lessons, or he can focus on leadership development to help him identify the traits that make him a leader and more importantly, how to make the best out of it.

Don’t pop that zit! Surely you’ve heard that statement before. You may have even heard your mom say it when you were about 13 or 14 years old. Well, the truth is she was correct. It is not a prudent choice to pop pimples and hope they heal up and go away. This can not only often make them worse, but it can cause scarring as well. So instead of pinching, poking, prodding and popping, you should seek out the best acne medication for your skin type and condition. Allow the blemish cream or acne toner to do the work for you. Not only will these help clear up your complexion, but they can additionally aid with preventing new whiteheads and blackheads from forming.

Where do you go to find the best acne medication and treatments currently available? What about a general acne related website like this? The truth is there are several routes to take when it comes to clearing up your skin. One method is to visit a licensed dermatologist and see what he or she recommends for your skin. More than likely they will tell you what type of acne you have and then suggest a prescription medication. Although these are generally topical, they may even prescribe you an oral medication to control your hormones and oil production from the inside. These are often quite effective.

If you take some time to look online, you will notice a lot of websites claiming to offer the best acne medication. Probably the most notable one at this point is Proactiv Solution. This company has sold millions of acne treatment kits and products to individuals all over the globe. They now have an excellent reputation for being effective in treating and preventing acne breakouts. If you take a peek at their official website, you will notice that a started kit can be purchased.

Local drugstores offer all sorts of over-the-counter acne blemish solutions. As far as the best acne medication or cream goes, this generally depends on the person. For example, maybe you prefer a topical medication with the drying agent benzyl peroxide, or you may also like toning aids that contain salicylic acid. While the first ingredient aims to dry out blemishes, the second component is an exfoliant that aims to clear away dead skin cells and allow the pores to breath. While both can effectively assist with clearing up blemishes like whiteheads and blackheads, you have to decide for yourself which one is the best acne medication for you and your skin type. Some of these products can irritate certain individuals, while others are milder. The key is to try out a few different topical creams and gels, and then decide which one is working for you. There are also acne cleansers to give a shot.

Life is about a lot of things, depending on each individual, but it breaks down to choices at its most basic level. Each day we are faced with choices. Sometimes we face the same choices each day. Making some choices are not like a one size fits all thing. Let’s say you’ve made the choice to lose weight.Every day you will be faced with choices that will either keep you on track with that choice or lead you away from that choice. Will you choose to have fruit instead of a decadent dessert? Will you choose vegetables instead of pasta laden with sauces? Will you choose to exercise or skip it?

Let’s say you make the better choices today. That’s great, but you need to realize that you will be faced with the same kinds of choices each day. Some days you may not make the better choice. But being aware that you will have to continue making daily choices can help your resolve and help you get throught the moment of decision.

Be aware that things will pop up each day and often throughout the day. Be prepared ahead of time to make the better choice.

It doesn’t matter what you want to change in your life, you will be facing many choices on the road to your goals.

If you sleep late, put off working on a project, grab a donut or flop in front of the TV instead of doing something productive, remember you made those choices. Habits can be hard to break, but it’s ultimately you who decides in each situation which choice you’re going to make. It’s you who decides whether or not you will make a choice that leads you closer to your goals or farther away from your goals.

Peer pressure can also lead you to making bad choices. We tend to think of peer pressure being exclusive to teenagers, but the truth is we are all subject to peer pressure. How many times have you gone on a diet and as soon as you get together with friends they try to coax you into having dessert? They tell you to live it up a little, you can get back on your diet tomorrow. It’s in those moments when we usually cave in and have the dessert. Even though it was your friends who lead you to the wrong choice in that moment, it’s still your responsibility to own up to the fact that you made the choice.

Start thinking more about the choices you make. Make the decision to make better choices each day. Also realize that sometimes things will pop up that you aren’t prepared for. But if you make a conscious effort to always be aware of the choices you make, you can stick to making better choices, despite peer pressure or what’s going on in your life.

 

I have recently started a new hobby – collecting diecast model cars. Now, before you all start thinking, thats it he’s finally shuffled off into senility, let me assure you that theres more to this fascinating hobby than you might think. You see, although diecast toy automobiles, trucks, tractors and other vehicles have been popular with boys of all ages for years, you may not realise that diecast toy cars have been around since the early 1930’s. These early on vehicles weren’t actually modeled on any particular vehicle or truck either, they were simply basic vehicles with incredibly little detail.

Most diecast models are actually made of a mix of plastic and metal, more commonly an alloy of zinc and aluminum, and come in all shapes and sizes including detailed scale models of airplanes and trains, although cars are still the most common.

The term “diecast” describes any sort of item produced utilizing a specific metal casting method, and the first models on the market were small automobiles or vans without any plastic windows

These days there are lots of different manufacturers such as AutoArt, CMC, Matchbox and of course the old childhood favorite, Hot Wheels. These companies now make diecast vehicles of every description; there are automobiles, airplanes, construction vehicles, boats, military vehicles, and more. When I first starting to collect diecast vehicles, I thought carefully about which kinds I really wanted, simply because of the vast choice available, but eventually I settled on hyper-realistic models from the top end designers. Its all Lamborghini for me – no Chevy Nova’s in my collection.

Of course, diecast models can also be found in lots of different scales. The most popular scales around today are 1:18 scale and 1:24 scale. The smaller the second number in the scale – the larger the vehicle. For instance, a 1955 Ford in 1:18 scale will be about 12″ long while a 1:24 scale replica of that exact same vehicle will be about 9″ long. A 1:64 scale will be about 3″ long – the dimension of a common Hot Wheels or Matchbox vehicle.

When you start collecting these vehicles it is like taking a trip back in time to the early decades of the 20th century when suppliers such as Tootsie Toys in the Us, or Dinky Toys in the United Kingdom produced the first diecast toys

I spend a lot of time trawling the usual sites such as eBay trying to find unusual or discontinued models to grow my collection and keep it more interesting. Another excellent place to get one-of-a-kind diecast vehicles at very competitive prices is, of course Silent Autos – they are my goto shop simply because of their knowledge, passion and great prices – theres a well deserved plug guys!

Like with other popular collecting fields, diecast collecting has specialized commercial companies that trade vehicles and related accessories. In fact, lots of individuals start collecting automobiles as an interest to come to be companies at a later date, either turning this interest into an occupation, or as a way to get very unusual vehicles for their own collections, while they assist other collectors in their quest of showcase-model automobiles.

Like most diecast collectors I’m a long way from completing my collection because, it seems, brand-new models are always coming out, and my collecting never sees to end. I’m now diversifying and looking at starting an entirely brand-new collection in a subtopic. I currently have my eye on F1 cars.

As I said above, diecast vehicles can be found in different scales with the most popular ranging from 1:28 to 1:64 scale, although lots of collectors, such as myself, like to concentrate t on the 1:43 and 1:50 scales. Of course, diecast toys were originally produced for children, but the collecting boom began during the 1950’s when grown children stated to keep their automobiles as an alternative of tossing them away and adults discovered them as valuable collectible products.

Increasing an assortment is not that difficult, also when focusing on a solitary marque, because there are different models from the twenties, thirties, forties, fifties, sixties, seventies, etc. Thus, every diecast collector has a globe of possibilities when gathering diecast models from practically any sort of time period.
Hopefully you identified that practical. If you are wanting to get Danbury Mint Diecast Cars, as we discussed above eBay is a great place to do this and get a fantastic offer on your Danbury Mint Diecast Cars.

Many businesses go to the Alaska State Fair in Palmer.  This 3 week gathering is a good way to make or break your business.  While I was there I saw many businesses that are only there for that time, and open no other time of year.

There were others that did not sell much there, but handed out a lot of advertisement, and networked to make sales outside the fair grounds.

Your business can be featured at the fair.

How hard is it?

Well let me be honest, I have been to the fair on both sides;  both as an employee of a business there, and as a customer.

The preparation of going to the fair is pretty intense.  It usually takes several weeks to prepare, pack, unpack, and setup your business.  Some businesses buy, or rent tents.  Some build buildings and haul them by trailer to the fair grounds.  This is usually the hardest part.

Next is of course the paperwork that you file, and the fees that you have to pay.  Those are usually explained at the fair grounds by the administration there.  I will differ you to them.

Packing your goods is usually next, Make sure you pack some warm clothes, as well as several changes of clothes.  Your stay there will be 4 weeks give or take.  During that time you will need to have a place to stay,  Many stay in the tents that they do business in, or an RV close by.

Now that your all set up and dug in for the long haul, you will be open for business.  First impressions here last a life time,  both good and bad.  Make sure you have lots of business cards, and other advertising information, as they can help you get more business after the fair is over if you treat your customers right.

As a customer, I can not tell you how many businesses I saw up there with a good product, or good idea, that had no way of contacting them after the fair was over.  They had no business cards, brochures, booklets, etc.

As a marketing specialist, it is frustrating to see so many potential opportunities pass people by because they are unprepared.In early February of this year, the second half of Super Bowl XLVII came to a sudden, unexpected halt when the power went out, stopping play for 34 minutes.

Millions of Americans were sitting around their televisions, waiting for the game to resume and wondering what to do in the meantime. Then Oreo gave them a suggestion.“Power Out? No problem,” they tweeted in the midst of the blackout. Along with a link to a picture of an Oreo that read, “You can still dunk in the dark.”

How disturbing can the feeling of one person having nothing be to the peace amongst friends, spouses, siblings and family members? I suppose this does not sound as bad as it can become once it happens around you or in your household

Very often we aspire to become and have different things and yet life has a way of throwing the unexpected curve ball at you which will either see you make or break it further.

It is my view that the ability to accept the things we cannot change and focus on what lies ahead that will see any of us through these times.  I am however puzzled at how these are gripped where people would rather go into a sulking mode and irritate the rest of us and start creating barriers that makes them unreachable to the rest of the ‘outside world’ as they may deem it.  Yet there is an expectation for others to continue to show interest or else your distance is interpreted as being only there when times are good.

These guys often contradict their feelings so much about others that they completely miss the point. You don’t want people asking you questions or offer your help as you are not hollow and if they keep their distance they are still bad people. Nothing happens to you because you are being punished, but it’s what you make out of the situation that can restore your strength and ability to see it through and find ways to recover.

We instead continue to bury ourselves in a dark hole that’s big enough for us and shut the rest of the world out – just because.  I cannot for one stress enough what it means to be down and out and even people who sometimes look like as if they are on top of their game are actually at times down and out but they just keep going.

The circumstances that surround the sheepish feeling may differ from person to person and in some cases it may take others longer to recover but the one thing all those who eventually recover will have in common will be the willingness to do so.

No matter how bad it seems or sounds, I have personally been in situations that seemed beyond my comprehension of how I will possible recover from them.  In fact the more they happen the better one’s ability become to deal with them.  These are the times, one’s strength surfaces more and more and you will hardly recognise the strong person you have in you.

But if we always choose to be gullible about your situations and blame anyone that you come across and misinterpret every given situation in a negative manner then how do you expect others to accept you and your circumstance.  People move on and away as soon as you move on and away, but if you will be licking your wounds everyday for the rest of your life then we will circling around you to watch you sink deeper into whatever you think is wrong with you.

Sometimes it sounds easier than what it really is which is true, as you will also need the courage to start the thought of wanting to do something which will drive the will power eventually.  So it starts small and step by step you go on.

Feeling sorry for yourself and blaming people for an error in judgement by you if that’s the case then itS not conducive for you or for them.  You make it impossible and unbearable for people to be around you as they need to tip toe with words because they don’t want to ‘strike’ you or rub you in the wrong way. Come on, life happens to the best of us. Sometimes you will be at a crucial stage of your life, career, an idea then it gets snatched away in an eye wink. Who’s’ fault is it? It actually does not matter, get up and try again, change course or strategy if you have to but don’t give in to the pressures of failure.

So, the will power is one thing all of us have but many of us never attempted to use it and some of us  have chosen not to.

All the best with all your attempts as I believe at least one will be fruitful but yet again patience is virtue as you may well know and yet time waits for no man.

Cheers

Paul M